And some stray thoughts of an old converstaion:
Waking up from the ego's nightmare and watching the examples with consciousness, we see the pattern.
We realise the method, as our energy creates our material reality. Our energy-flow, like obedient "raw material" will not judge our intent, will not ask "Will it be really good?".
Our energy "copies/reproduces" our emotional pattern.
The question is, what we do, when the upshot comes to light.
Accusations, complains are the easy way. But by searching, recognising and changing the pattern we can redeem ourselves.
Whilst "sleeping", the same automatic process operates our relationships and also our communications.
If I hurt someone - it is a pattern, sent by me, to my victim.
Their unconscious reaction will make a "copy" of this pattern and my "attack" will return to me.
So simple.
Maybe someone helps me to face the upshot of my unconscious "operation", but be sure, the cause and effect are already done.
Only edification is needed.
When I get help to face my mistake, in fact I get help for my awakening. To realise my fault, to change my wrongly working pattern.
Of course, here I have new possibilities.
I may decide to push away the helper - "messenger"? - because my ego's pride hates learning, hates edifications and mostly hates to lose its power over me. So I may decide to remain my ego's slave and push away everyone who dares to remind me to my captivity.
Or, I may decide to receive and adopt the got help to wake up my consciousness.
Hard decision ... I can understand human weakness ... shifting the responsibility, remaining to "sleeper" in our ego's prison, making mistakes again and again, blaming the Karma, God, fortune or the whole outside world ... is much more simple.
I have a simile about ego's operating method.
When a sect "annexes" people, the first rule is that there is only one right ideology, only single right way of thinking - it is the sect's ideology!
Everybody, who put questions, queries this ideology - becomes to enemy! No criticism, no doubt, no question - else you become to enemy "black sheep"!
This is the ego's thinking process.
If someone recognises the ego's unjust, mad, dangerous reign - the ego controlled person will push away this person.
Like in sects - the liberating change can come from outside, when someone realises the existing oppression and finds a way to get in. These ways are blocked by threats or blackmail.
When an ego controlled person gets false praise and appreciation from their ego - she/he doesn't dare to stand up against it, because the fear of losing these false "painkillers" is bigger than the desire for Truth.
Yes, Truth gives all the well deserved rewards, Truth is God's intention, and He never cheats on us ... but if someone doesn't dare to believe in her/his inner values - no self-esteem, no self-love, no self-confidence!! - this person stays with the ego's lies - with the sect!
Eva